This weekend my beautiful cousin got married to her one true love. It was a perfect day and I felt so blessed to be standing by her side as she said “I do” to a really great guy who has been in our lives for 8 years and become a part of the family in that time. I’m getting teary eyed just thinking about how much our lives have changed since they first met. We were just kids then, and now they’re graduated, married, living 13 hours away, and have great jobs in their careers. I feel like I blinked and 10 years passed!
Now that I’ve have the experience of being a maid of honor, I thought I might share some of my wisdom with you! Here are my top 5 tips for killing it as a bridesmaid!
- The Bachelorette Party should be a reflection of the bride. This means that if your bride likes to party, by all means, take her to a club! However, that does not have to be the scene of every bachelorette party just because that’s what it’s like in movies. If she likes to drink, but doesn’t like to go crazy, go on a tour of a brewery or winery. If she likes to be creative, take her to a paint party (like I did!). If she’s even more low-key than that, try Broadway or a spa trip. If she’s more adventurous, go sky-diving or kayaking or take surfing lessons. No two brides are the same, and as such, the bachelorette parties should be different as well! The one thing that should always remain the same, however: THE BRIDE DOES NOT PAY FOR ANYTHING.
- Go with the flow. This is not your day. You were INVITED to share in it. That means the bride loves and cares about you, and this is your opportunity to show her that you feel the same way. This means that you cannot complain about anything. Not the dress, the food, the cost, the other bridesmaids, the hotel, etc. If she wants her bridesmaids to wear a nail polish color that you think is ugly, you deal with it and rock that color (after all, you slay in any look)! She has put an extraordinary amount of time and effort into planning her wedding, and you should be supportive and compliment the outcome. She is working under immense pressure and the last thing she needs is for her hand-selected support group to complain to her about various details. Just don’t do it.
- Have fun, but don’t clock out. There will be food, dancing, and drinking at the wedding, and you should definitely enjoy those things! The bride and her family wants you to enjoy your time! However, keep in mind that the night should be about you spending time with the bride and groom and ensuring that her stress levels are low and happiness levels are high. If that means you need to forfeit some alone time with your date, than that’s a consequence you’ll just have to deal with. After all, you’re there to support your girl, right?! As a bridesmaid, you’re more than a guest. You’re a co-manager and need to act as such. She is counting on you to make her day special!
Being a bridesmaid is a wonderful honor, and should you be asked I hope you’ll cherish the moments and remember that this day is one the bride and groom will look back on for the rest of their lives. Do your part to make it stress-free, fun, and memorable. After all, you were chosen for a reason!